Well, I finally got a hold of Eaton to check on parts. The Tech guy on the phone asked which one I needed. When I told him I needed 3 parts he said but a new locker. He then gave me the prices, the center gear is $300 and the side gears are $150 each, so I see his point. I asked him why the case bolts came out. He actually had an answer and said the Dana 30's really flex a lot and causes the case bolts to stretch and come loose.
If that's the case, I'll have the same problem again with a new Detroit. I think I am going to try the full case Spartan. If it isn't aggressive enough for me, I'll put it in another Jeep or throw a 44 front under mine. That Amazon price is a hundred bucks less than other places I've checked.
Or, I could just weld up the center of the Detroit and have max traction.